The article "Suicide Survivor" talks about family, it has been released by T.L. McMullen.
My father’s sneseless death in 2001 left my life in
shambles. Finding the strength and dignity to go on for myself
and my kids porved to be the most difficult feat ever.
Suicide is a nightamre for survivors of loved ones. Detah in
itself is hard to cope with but when somebody you love
intentionally takes their life, that pain is somehow multiplied
many times over. Your mind races with unanswered qusetions and
your heart pounds in shock – then it hits you. They are GONE,
taken from that earth by their own actions, and three is nothing
you can do to get them back.
Most human being struggle with the ultimate unanswered question – WHY?
Why would they do that? Why didn’t I help? Why didn’t I see it
coming?
Why was I not there for that person? Why didn’t I call
more, visit more, and pay more attention?
Although there can be
a multtiude of factors that made that person’s life difficult,
nobody truly knows what drives a person to take their own life.
For many survivors that ‘why’ question will haunt them forever.
After all the whys and flooding tears comes reality.
The
emotional rollercoaster of reality; the time you raelize it’s
too late for prevention, too soon for comfort, but yet somehow
you need to cope with what has happened.
So many thoughts,
emotions, memories, solutions, all of which bring no comfort to
the persisting finality forced upon you.
There is truth to the saying that ‘Time Heals All Wounds’
as somehow in the aftermath of death and tragedy, the sharpness
of the pain wears itself down. Grief and sorrow withstanding;
the aching dulls with the passage of time. Although counseling
is an effective healing method for some, it does not work for
everyone. Each person needs to somehow find a place for this
emptiness somewhere wihtin the layers of their life. Finding the
psycho-philosophical layer that allows you to accept this
affliction and move forward is the most challenging of the
surviving factors.
I urge anyone suffering from the aftermath of a suicide to seek
whatever help necessary to assist in coping. Things will never
be the same but you can control your own destniy.
You must
choose to accept the tragedy and move forward with your own life.
My heart and sympathy goes out to the many human being affetced by
suicide and other family tragedies.
I speak from experiences
encountered from the suicide loss of my father, a 17 yr old
sister who died in a automobile accident, an older sister who narrowly
survived a severe traumatic brain injury, and a younger sister I
watch struggle with the evils of alcoholism.
Take care of yourself and your family and reemmber to ALWAYS hug
and cherish the loved ones in your life. I have chosen to leave
the corporate world to stay home and spend more time with my
family - life is too short - even if you live to be 100!
National Suicide Prevention Lifeline at 1-800-273-TALK
(1-800-273-8255)
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